Moving away to college is a big transition, whether you’ve come from the other side of the world or half an hour down the road. If you’re suffering from homesickness, just remember you’re definitely not the only one.
Feeling homesick is really normal, especially in the first few months of college. Those around you are probably feeling the burn too, but are just keeping schtum.
To give you a helping hand, we’ve put together our top tips for getting over homesickness, so you can concentrate on making the most of your uni years.
Here are the best ways to handle homesickness:
Let yourself be homesick for a bit
This is perhaps the most important message of all, so we’ve whacked it right at the top of the list. Feeling homesick isn’t a weakness, nor is it something to beat yourself up about. Missing home is something that affects most students – you’ll only make the situation worse if you think of it as something to feel guilty about. Let yourself be homesick for a bit. A good cry is good for the soul! But put a time limit on your wallowing. Give yourself 24 hours, and then pick up a phone and ask your new roommates if they want to grab a coffee or watch your favorite Netflix show.
Go out and keep yourself busy.
It might be tempting to treat your room as your own little safe haven, but spending lots of time inside will only make the homesickness get much worse. Isolating yourself will make your feelings more intense, as you’ll spend even more time thinking about what you miss from home. Try to keep yourself busy by organizing day trips, studying at the library rather than in your room, getting a part-time job or even trying out some extracurricular activities.
Bring home comforts to College
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Whether it’s your favorite teddy bear or a rag of a blanket that your nan gave you when you were seven, we all have objects that cheer us up when we’re not feeling our best. Whatever your comfort things are, make sure you bring them to college with you. This is particularly important if you’re studying abroad or you’re on a gap year, as home comforts can massively help with feelings of homesickness while travelling. And don’t be worried about getting stick for having cuddly toys in your room – chances are, your roommates have theirs hidden away somewhere too.
Keep in touch with home (but not too much!)
Whether it’s a phone call, a WhatsApp group chat or a letter in the post, keeping in touch with your friends and family helps to close that gap and make you feel more involved with things back home. However, keeping in touch too much can actually make you feel the distance more. The trick is to not let it get to the stage where you’re communicating with people back home more than you are with people at college. Remember, your friends and family will still be waiting for you back home during the holidays, so try to focus on the here and now at uni. You can go back and visit any time, but try not to go too close to the start of term, as it could make your homesickness worse.
Stay off social media
Similarly to our previous point, constantly checking on the social media pages of your friends from home will do more harm than good. As will looking through photos of your bestie’s banging 21st birthday on your own Instagram account. Limit your time on social media and turn off social media notifications on your phone, so you’re not distracted by memories from home when you do find yourself perking up. Choose IRL over IG!
Explore your new surroundings
One of the main reasons we feel homesick is often to do with being in unfamiliar surroundings, so it’s a great idea to set aside some time to explore your college campus, town or city so you’ll feel more at home.
In fact, not getting to know their campus or local area is one of the biggest regrets we’ve heard previous students cite when they graduate.
Go for walks, do some sightseeing, do voluntary work within the local community or just get to grips with what’s available on your campus. You’re only around for a few years, so now’s the time to make the most of it.
Don’t compare yourself to other people
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One of the biggest myths about college is that every day is a wild party, where you’ll enjoy minimal responsibilities and get drunk most nights of the week. It’s easy to look at everyone else’s Instagram and Snapchat stories and think you’re not having as good of a time as they are, or that you’re doing something wrong. But don’t forget that social media just shows a superficial snapshot of what people’s lives are actually like. Try not to compare your college experience to others, and don’t expect every single day to be the best one of your life.
Plan one nice thing for yourself a day
Staying positive can be a lot easier said than done. But making a planned effort to carry a positive attitude around with you will help you to combat homesickness in a major way. Plan things into your day that you enjoy doing and can look forward to, whether it’s socializing with friends or a nice hot bath and an episode of Euphoria. Staying positive also makes you a pleasure to be around, so you’ll probably find it much easier to make new friends (which also helps to keep homesickness at bay).That said, if you are struggling, don’t feel as though you can’t tell people you’re unhappy. Friends and professional organizations are always on hand to help.
Ask for help
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The jump from school to university can be tough to get your head around at first, and there’s no shame in asking for help. If you’re having any issues with your class (or anything else for that matter) don’t suffer in silence. If you’re feeling homesick, worrying about your studies or your finances will only make things worse, so take steps to sort any issues out or get support as soon as they arise. As well as approaching your lecturers directly, you’ll also find that your college have counselling services available, which you can use if you need mental health support.
When you’re feeling down it can be tempting to lie on the sofa binging realty tv shows while crying into a massive tub of Ben and Jerry’s, but this is likely to make you feel a lot worse. Keeping healthy will keep you feeling much more positive about life. Check out our list of low-cost fitness ideas if you need some inspiration on how to keep fit and happy on a budget.
Remember there’s always help out there. If you’re struggling with your mental health, there are services available at your university that are free to access.
By Jake Butler