Today’s subject is “responsible dating.” and we welcome back Lisa Jander…The Teen Dating Mechanic
What do you mean by teens being responsible daters?
Well responsible dating and responsible driving are very similar. when you’re driving, you have a responsibility to follow the rules. it’s that simple. dating—it’s no different.
What rules should I keep in mind when I’m starting to date?
A great example is if you own a car, it’s your responsibility to keep track of that car and make sure the maintenance is done and make sure it’s clean. In dating, you want to make sure that you’re brushing your teeth, putting on deodorant, simple things like that. a clean outfit is always good.
How about punctuality? do I have a responsibility to that as well?
Absolutely, punctuality is really, really key. if you’re driving to pick somebody up and you say you’re gonna be on time at 7 o’clock and you’re not quite there yet, it’s your responsibility to call them and let them know you’re going to be late. it’s really important to do that.
but I guess people expect for me not to be late, don’t they?
Well no, they expect you to be on time. we all expect that, so be on time. and if you can’t be for whatever reason—hopefully it’s a good reason—then just make sure you let the person know.
How about curfew?
Curfew’s important as well. in driving, when you’re a young driver, you will have a curfew. let’s say that’s 10 o’clock. if that curfew is 10, you’re home by 10. dating is the same. if you promise the parents that you’ll be home at 10 o’clock, it’s important to get there maybe even 9:59 would be a really good start.
What about your analogy for stop signs?
A stop sign basically says it all. it says stop. and that’s what you do in dating. If someone says to you, you know, “could you please stop texting me during school?” then you want to stop. You want to honor that and really respect that person.
When it comes to going out on a first date with that special person, Winnie the pooh said it best…
As soon as I saw you, I knew that an adventure was going to happen.
of course, what’s most important is that it’s a safe adventure.
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